(western) jews know about christianity bc we’re surrounded by it. it’s pervasive in our lives, whether we want it to be or not (we don’t.) we know how it works because, for many of us, we were led to believe that many aspects of christianity were actually universal, or at least part of a common “judeo-christian” (or even “abrahamic”) system that works in the same way for everyone.
we know all about sin, and about jesus, and about god-as-anthropomorphized-dude-in-sky, and many of us didn’t know that those AREN’T actually part of judaism for a long time, since they are SO entwined in “secular” culture.
so yes, most of us are fully qualified to talk about the differences between christianity and judaism, since one is our religion and the other is forced on us in every conceivable way.
this does NOT mean that christians have the same ability to talk about judaism, since the majority of you don’t know a single fucking thing about it that’s actually true, because why would you?
this is ok to rb but every xtian that adds something stupid owes me $18
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Why “doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety
A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.
This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.
THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.
You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind.
People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.
In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture.
Therefore, I present to you:
THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS
–Go on a walk
–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.
–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching
–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind
–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift
–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.
THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:
–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.
–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see.
–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in.
–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.)
–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety.
–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel.
–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless.
THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:
–List the capitals of all the U.S. states
–List the capitals of all the European countries
–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors.
–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.
–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.
Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself. I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too.
(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)
This would’ve been great an hour ago
This is so so true! When I was younger and suffering anxiety attacks, I used distraction techniques as I liked to call them. I’d watch tv shows, read a book, write something or play a game. Something that distracted my mind.
Sometimes it takes a while for it to work so don’t give up on distraction right away. Keep doing it! My mind eventually trained itself into recognising sitcoms as a “calm down” thing, so it became easier to distract myself with them the longer I did it.
wow so helpful thanks
Oh. So that’s why I’m much, much happier when I’m busy and doing things. Thank you! ❤️🐘
the bar is set very very low
YOU HAVE GOT TO BE SHITTING ME
ABSOLUTELY FUCKING SHITTING ME
STARBUCKS DIDNT HAVE SICK LEAVE
Most places in the US that handle food don’t have sick leave. I work in a deli in a grocery store and I was sick for a week. I worked anyway because if I call out, I wouldn’t get paid and therefore not make rent and then I’d also get written up. Hope nobody got sick getting their lunchmeat lol.
It seems that the places that work with food punishes workers the hardest when they call out sick, which discourages sick people from abstaining from work and encourages the further spreading of disease.
there will be a moment when you realize you are more grown up than your parents are. this is the loss of childhood, my love. it is when you’re standing in the kitchen and one of your parents is screaming about something and you recognize: you will let them win the fight not because you are wrong, but simply because you know that they will keep shouting unless you drop the subject. you expect them to have childish understandings of things. they will hold onto their concept of the world as if it was not a changing thing. they must be right, and they must be somehow more right than you, always, in everything. their idea of control is so necessary to who they are that you just let it go.
this is the moment. you are 11 or 17 or 21. and you realize that you’re more mature than they ever were.
and in some odd, sad way, this frees you. where they have stagnated, you continue.
For those saying in the notes “wow teens really think they’re more mature than their parents just because they disagree lol?” No, it’s not about that.
It’s about seeing my mom use childish tactics of name calling, and changing the topic to another issue when my sisters call her out on something. When my sister asked her what was so wrong about homosexuality and my mom only had one response, “It’s not normal,” to every follow up question my sister had. It’s when my dad decides to make a joke, and getting unreasonably angry when it’s not recieved well, deciding that we just can’t take a joke and not that he didn’t read the room right. It’s when my aunt is proud of herself for being close minded and laughs at my sisters and I for trying to say that maybe she shouldn’t be.
As a younger teen I had a theory that because my mom ran a daycare out of our home for so many years that she now only knew how to argue like a child. It’s been years since the daycare and she still resorts to childish tactics. And as I got older I saw it more in the other adults in my life. My sisters see it too, and we’re becoming experts in how to navigate our them as if we were the parents learning how to control our children.
I love my parents I really do. But at 23 years old it is indeed a bit sad and frightening to realise that these figures of authority really dont hold that much more over me in terms of maturity anymore. And that yeah, there are many scenarios I have to navigate as the adult in the situation, and be
the one willing to let things go.
Basically, it’s the realisation that respect is earned, not demanded simply because someone is older.
My favorite Steven Universe game to play is “Watch Rebecca Sugar get increasingly frustrated with the censors.” This last episode was basically “Oh, you want to remove the gay? Fine, but this episode isn’t going to make any goddamn sense. You want to just not show this episode? Then you’ll miss the Diamonds coming to earth and the epic fight this entire show has been leading up to. Guess you’ll just have watch these two girls who love one another get married. What a hardship. Fuck you.”
i am going to say something that we all know but do not realize or appreciate: when gansey was on the rowing team he definitely wore nike shorts (the SHORT ones) with spandex underneath and he definitely didn’t change out of them right when he got home from practice so ronan would wake up and see gansey first thing and as a result he definitely started each day with a gay crisis
He doesn’t even try to fake it
Vato Falman: There is a master key and a spare key for the office. Hawkeye has them both. When I asked, “What if you die, Hawkeye? How will we get into the office?” she said, “If I’m dead, you all have been dead for weeks.”
Big Mood
Todd pre-emptively saying shut up to whoever’s reading his most private or embarrassing thoughts
bullshit central 