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profeminist:

UPDATE TO TRANSGENDER STYLE GUIDE: AVOIDING INVALIDATING LANGUAGE TRAPS

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Title: The Radical Copyeditor’s Style Guide for Writing About Transgender People: 2.8-2.11: Avoiding Invalidating Language Traps

Speech bubbles contrast the following phrases under the headings “Invalidating language” versus “Validating language”: “Women and trans women” versus “Cis and trans women”; “Students who consider themselves ‘non-binary’” versus “Non-binary students”; “Zed, who identifies as agender” versus “Zed is agender”; “her secret was exposed” versus “her history was publicized”; “closeted,” “stealth,” and “passes” versus “private” and “nondisclosure”; and “an out trans man” versus “openly trans” and “public.”

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mexicantransguy:

Ok but as a dysphoric trans man the whole ‘you need dysphoria to be trans’ actually baffles me because even tho I’ve always has crippling dysphoria, it didn’t actually help me figure out my gender at all. I usually dismissed my dysphoria as ‘internalized misogyny’ or just not being feminine enough, which actually just caused me worse dysphoria.

You know what made me figure out that I’m trans though? Gender euphoria. The minute I got called a ‘sir’ is the moment that I realized, “shit this feels right.” And at that point I realized that I could no longer deny the fact that I’m not a woman and that I couldn’t keep living as one.

Here’s a hot take: maybe being trans isn’t so much about how uncomfortable you can be in your AGAB, but rather how much more comfortable you can be.

Not to mention how fucked up it is to making transness synonymous with “feeling shitty about yourself.” It’s so much more.

jusadad:

singhisqueerofficial:

muffinly:

idrisbaker:

juxtapoesition:

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juxtapoesition:

Whats the moral of this story?

There is no one way to be trans. There isnt one “trans” body. It’s never to late.

And one day, you will get to where you need to be.

I really needed this today. I’m trans nb, leaning toward masculinity, in the early days of contemplating medical transition, and hooooo boy this post is inspiring and beautiful!!!!

Aww scrolling through a bunch of handsome strangers and I get to see the awesome @singhisqueerofficial among them 🙂

AWWW you’re the sweetest 🙏🏾 I didn’t even know this existed! Thank you for tagging me 😭💙💙💙 @muffinly

My dear children, look at all these beautiful men and masculine-aligned individuals! I cannot wait to grow older, to look as handsome as these people. One day, you will all reach your transitional goals, and until then just know I believe in you! –Love, Dad

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pumpkinskull:

iamthedukeofurl:

marysburgerbackpack:

secretsofaginger:

basiliskhallward:

fun tip for cis people: instead of saying “back when she was a he” or “back before [birthname] became [preferred name]”, try not being a pile of shit by saying something like “before she came out” or “before she began her transition”!

Pls friends and thanks.

“before she came out” is so easy and preserves so much dignity, PLEASE

I’ve been wondering the best way to say this. Thank you. 

also if their transition is irrelevant to the story, don’t bring it up! just say “when X was a kid/ younger/ in college/ etc” and carry on using their current name and pronouns.

That last point is very important! DO NOT OUT ANYONE! Do not bring up their trans status or transition unnecessarily! And you trying to look more interesting/cool/whatever by having a trans friend does not count as “neccessary”!!